The first thing you have to do is get her phone number.  So a few minutes after you get her phone number, you continue the conversation.

A few minutes later you pretend you received a text message but you are actually going to send her a text message. The first text will be something playful and flirty. It can be something like:

“Hey this cute girl is talking to me, but I don’t know how to flirt with her.  Help?”

If you can use any references to your conversation, that would be even better. This is also called callback humor which is more explored in the book.

In most cases the girl will check her phone and she will see you texted. Now you have to pretend like you know nothing about it and you just keep the conversation going. She will usually text you back something funny and you can do this flirting back and forth while you both pretend nothing is happening.

What is so great about this is that you two already have a bunch of text messages going back and forth even before you two go separate ways. So the next day when you text her, you don’t complete start cold because you two already communicated over text.

This technique will make a lot of your phone numbers solid and having girls respond to your initial text message the next day.

For more tips and tricks likes these, check out The Ultimate Guide to Text and Phone Game.

(BTW: We have a model that shows you the phases you go through from meeting a woman to sleeping with her. It’s all detailed in the seduction bible Magic Bullets.)

Why do we get AA?
The # 1 reason we get approach anxiety is our ‘Fear of Rejection’. Our minds tell us not to approach people we don’t know as it is outside of our comfort zones. You have to realize that males are logical creatures (females are emotional), and that being the case, our mind will give us logical reasons not to approach to keep us safe, to keep us comfortable, and will put our comfort above our happiness.

Examples of these logical reasons not to approach are ’she’s probably got a boyfriend’, ’she looks like she’s in a hurry’, ’she’s not attractive enough’ (If she is not attractive then fair enough lol, but even still, for 6’s and up practice makes perfect!). Any of these sound familiar? The list could go on forever.

Yes, if you don’t approach that girl you’ve been thinking about approaching, you’ll be safe from rejection, but you won’t necessarily be happy with yourself.

Annihilating Approach Anxiety
Something I learnt from Jeet Kune Do was a concept - ‘Don’t Think, Just Do’. In short, we were taught not to think, just do, when conditioning, or fine tuning a new move/combo. What this does is it doesn’t enable your mind to think of everything that you should be doing, it doesn’t let your mind over complicate things, you just do it. This is something I linked when I first heard of the 3 second rule. Three seconds is about the time it takes for our brains to receive a signal and respond. In other words the time it takes for us to see the girl, and begin coming up with the logical reasons to not approach.

This is why, if you do get approach anxiety, you have to let your body do the deciding & approach within 3 seconds, otherwise your mind will take control and will do everything in its power to stop you doing so. This doesn’t mean you can’t approach after 3 seconds, it will just get more & more difficult because you will dwell on the fact that you know you should be approaching, but you aren’t.

If you ever begin thinking too much, to the point you feel anxiety kicking in, just say out loud to yourself ‘Fuck It, what’s the worst that could happen’.

The next point I wanted to make, is don’t take it so seriously. You’re not putting this much effort into mastering this area of your life to make yourself crap your pants, you’re learning it so you can go out and enjoy yourself and meet many beautiful women along the way, as well as helping them enjoy themselves by meeting a great guy.

A great concept to go out with is ‘Leave others better off than when you first met’. So if you feel yourself getting approach anxiety, take a step back, take a deep breath, and laugh. Realize you’re putting way too much thought into this and you’re not having fun! One suggestion is going to the same bar a lot and getting used to it there.

It can help you relax, as you will become comfortable with your surroundings, you’ll begin to make friends who go there regularly, as well as making connections with the bartenders, doorman, DJ etc. I recommend getting familiar at a bar where you know lots of hot girls go. It’s money.

Improving your social interactions is a skill set. So you have to warm that skill set up. With that in mind, each day/night you go out, do some warm up sets. These don’t have to be full blown conversations, they can be openers as quick as ‘Hey what’s the time?’, ‘Hey do you know what time this place shuts?’, ‘Hey do you know what the nearest tube station is?’.

All the warm up sets are designed to do is get you in the mood of approaching. Use this rule, ‘The first 3 sets don’t count’. Your first three sets are your warm up sets, so until you’ve opened three sets, don’t worry about what happens.

Something Braddock says that I thought was helpful with overcoming approach anxiety is to say in a little girls voice inside your head ‘Oh no I’m too scared to go up and talk to strangers I couldn’t do that’. It made me laugh because you realize how stupid it sounds. Remember you’re a man, what the fuck is scary about talking to someone you haven’t met? Grab your balls by the hand and go have fun like a man would.

What’s the Worst that Could Happen?

Actually stop, and ask yourself, ‘What’s the worst that could happen?’. A girl could tell you to fuck off? A girl could slap you? Her boyfriend could come over and kick your ass? Let me tell you that I’ve tried & also seen guys do some outrageous stuff while experimenting in field, but I’ve never been or seen a guy (knock on wood) get slapped by a girl, been confronted by an angry boyfriend, never had a drink thrown over me, sure I’ve been told to fuck off, but that’s the worst I think I’ve ever had.

So you want to know what that feels like? Go up to a group of hot girls and say ‘Hey can you tell me to fuck off’, they’ll most likely not say it to begin with, but get them to say it to you. There, you’ve just been blown out in the worst way possible. Not as bad as you thought huh.

Mr. M told me something that I haven’t forgotten, and that was -

“You have to fail to succeed, so fail fast”

It is so true. The best of the best out there are the ones that have failed the most times, yet undoubtedly, also succeeded the most. I actually like sets that I get blown out from now, they are the ones you learn most from, and where would be the fun without the challenge?!

You wouldn’t be attempting this if it wasn’t challenging, that’s why it’s so rewarding, because your efforts pay off. So don’t beat yourself up the next time you get blown out, just say to yourself ‘Lesson learnt’, & move onto your next set.

Do I Need to Become Confident to Approach?

Some people say you have to be ‘Confident’ to approach successfully. But what is confidence? Maxwell Maltz summed this up in personally the best way possible. He said -

“Confidence is your capacity, to rise above a mistake”

To me, that is exactly what confidence is. And how do you rise above a mistake? You do that thing 1000 times. So I want to get better at football, how do I do it? Go and play football. I want to get better at running, how can I? Go and run. I want to get better at approaching, what do I do? GO AND APPROACH!
An awesome analogy from Mystery about confidence is, not becoming confident, but becoming competent. Becoming competent is basically doing something enough times so that you become accustom to doing it. He says to think of it like jumping into a freezing cold pool.

The 1st time you jump in, it’s absolutely freezing cold and you want to get out as soon as possible. The 2nd and 3rd time it’s still cold, but it’s not as bad. Then the 4th, 5th, 6th times it becomes fun and you keep getting out and jumping back in. But then you dry off and go to bed.

The next day, it’s back to square one, the first time jumping back in that freezing cold pool again is going to be horrible. But it’s the only way you’re going to get used to it. So learn to love it.

For me it boils down to this, men do the approaching, women do the choosing. Men don’t choose if they’re going to have sex with the woman (even if that is what we portray) and women very rarely do the approaching, unless they’re drunk.

I guarantee, if you do this every day, even after a couple weeks, you won’t wake up thinking ‘I have to approach strangers today’, you’ll find yourself just doing it, and the habit will begin to grow, to the point where it becomes a part of you to start conversations with people you don’t know. Better yet, you’ll actually begin to enjoy it.

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Keep an opening message short with a reason for messaging her. Try and find soemething in her profile that stands out and ask her a question about it.

Remember this is meant to be fun so keep it flirty! If she’s into skydiving tell her you can see she likes to live dangerously but can she iron a shirt?

It’s important to remember that there is no voice tone or body language with email so be careful not to come across as offensive and rude if you’re trying to be flirty and funny.

You might have heard the term NEG from pick up artists such as Mystery and Neil Strauss. This is basically a back handed compliment aimed at lowering a girls self esteem so she is more open to an approach.

Never ‘neg’ online - it doesn’t work. I am not a fan of the whole concept of negging and much prefer the ‘cocky funny’ approach of David Deangelo.

Always come from a position of confidence and assume she wants to meet you. It’s highly unlikely she’s talking to you to be polite; high quality women are far too busy for this.

Hot women on dating sites are often looking for something different from the guys they meet in bars and clubs so this is your chance to show you have attractive qualities even if you don’t have traditional good looks.

If you do start an email conversation with a girl online try to escalate to IM after about 2 or 3 emails. Always make sure to appear busy and don’t instantly reply to messages.

Build comfort with her on instant messenger then tell her you have stuff to do but you’ll call her when you are out so you can talk like grown ups. This will let her see you are confident and assuming she will happily give her your number.

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Before you start signing up for all the online dating sites it’s important you know some of the biggest mistakes men make when trying to meet women online.

1) A Weak Profile - Most men put hardly any effort into their profiles and simply list facts about themselves as if they are selling a stereo on eBay. Women want to see something interesting that makes you stand out and shows some personality.

2) The Wrong Type of Picture - Make sure you use an honest photo of yourself and don’t worry if you don’t think you look like Brad Pitt. Quality women often find interesting features far more attractive than traditional good looks. Try and find a photo of yourself in a natural setting rather than a photo you took of yourself on your phone camera. And make sure you keep your clothes on! Topless photo’s showing off your pecks are a big turn off. Test different photos on different sites to see which one gets the best response.

3) Pathetic Opening Emails - Never tell her she is beautiful or make sexual references in an opening email. These approaches never work.

4) Aggressive Messaging - Be patient. Emailing her too often or asking her why she hasn’t answered your last email is the WRONG thing to do. You will only appear needy and scare her off. Even if you are in a conversation with her make sure too leave some time between emails. If things are going well this will help to build attraction.

5) Pushing for a Meet Up - Again, be patient. There are a lot of freaks online and you need to build a strong rapport with a girl before asking her to meet up. Rushing things will make you seem desperate. Every women has different comfort levels that need to be reached before they will agree to meet you.

Avoid these common mistakes and you’ll be on the right track for successfully meeting women online. Most of all remember to have fun and not get hung up on one girl. If it goes wrong just let it go and move on, there are millions of girls coming online everyday so play the numbers of game and contact as many girls as possible so you can fine tune your online game.

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In case you missed it, Love Systems dating coaches Braddock and Savoy appeared on the Tyra Banks show this week. Watch the video now.

The name of the episode was “The Secret Code of Men” where the Bro Code was discussed. This was actually copied from the show How I Met Your Mother where Barney Stinson (played by Neil Patrick Harris) is one the best pickup artists. But Love Systems was there to show how men can learn to pickup women like Barney does.

Super Model Tyra assesses the Love Systems approach to meeting and attracting hot women. Theses proven sytems and routines come from the popular Magic bullets and Routines Manual. Watch the video and see how how Braddock and Savoy help an average guy surge from hero to zero with the girls and getting their numbers!

Tyra was left in no doubt about the power of Love Systems

If you want to learn more about Love Systems, check out the video now. Grab a copy of Love Systems Routines Manual and you’ll soon have all the lines, routines, and techniques to help you get the girls!

This is total BS!

This kind of crap is spread about by older women and young guys who are scared of a bit of competition. Even older guys spread this myth to reinforce their own fear of failure and rejection.

Any uptight women reading this might shoot me down when I say this, but for the most part dating younger women is more fun! Why? Becuase they are less jaded, less cynical, have less baggage and they are fun loving and up for adventure.

Ok, let me give you a couple of awesome tips for getting younger hotties……

1) Don’t try and be 21 if your 41 - The classic mistake older guys make is they go to clubs full of 20 somethings wearing ‘cool’ t-shirts and spouting slightly out of date ’street slang’. Don’t try and beat young women at their own game. They’ll just class you as a loser and walk away. Play to your strengths and demonstrate your worldly experience. Talk about art, travel and adventure. Don’t wear ‘cool’ clothes, wear a classy suit that exudes power.

Power and success are a huge turn on for younger women. Hang out in cool wine bars, not loud clubs. In short, operate on your turf and on your terms.

2) Turn the tables on her - Rather than being a sad loser chasing young chicks, get those hot young chicks chasing you. How? By demonstrating you are a man with options who chooses to be single. Make her show you that she’s a classy sophisticated girl who needs to raise her game to your level rather than you going down to hers.

As ever, successful seduction is all about attitude without arrogance. Be confident in who you are and the girls will want to be around you.

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Seducing a woman requires many different techniques. Different communication skills types are required to fuel their desires and fantasies. Inter-personal communication with a sense humor is a must. Listening & comprehending what a woman says is necessary for basic NLP and is the first step in seduction.

Most people, if not all, don’t know that NLP Seduction is about the fact that you as an individual can train your own mind to act the way you want in certain situations. For instance, you can program your mind to be attractive and catch the attention of the woman you are trying to seduce. In that way, she can easily fall for that highly attractive persona in you that will lead to a successful seduction.

NLP is about creating that good “First Impressions”. If you show a bad first impression, you might have a hard time winning that so called “special connection” with the woman you want.

Confidence is also a critical factor that you must consider. It’s all about the way you present yourself, the way dress and the way you carry yourself. It doesn’t matter what you say but how you say it!

Remember, you are seducing the woman you like so talk sensibly, manage the tone of your voice. This is where NLP comes in, you need NLP seduction to command body gestures, language and appearance. Boost your self esteem. Most women can sense if you are naive and weak because it shows on your voice and appearance, thus giving them a reason to reject you.

In conclusion, using NLP techiniques will ensure you successfully seduce your dream girl. You just need to practice and apply these techniques in your day to day life. You can ask your female friends to judge your progress until you perfect everything. Of course, this will not happen overnight. You need to constantly practice the techniques learned and use them in an appropriate way. Just don’t forget to wear that confidence in you and you’ll be the next happiest guy in your neighborhood together with the girl of your dreams.

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We’ll cover that one another day.

So forget about flashing the keys to your Porche or slipping in how much cash you made last year. That won’t cut it! Flirting is all about using subtle body language and teasing to spark sexual tension and attraction.

Women love to flirt and in reality they are naturally much better at it than men. Flirting is all about the most basic human mating rituals. Women demonstrate their female sexuality and men must demonstrate strong masculine traits such as leadership, confidence and humor.

One of the most powerful flirting techniques is teasing. The ability to tease a hot women is a powerful way of showing you are a confident man who’s not afraid of her response. It will create rapport quickly and allow you to get past that initial phase of getting to know eachother. Here’s a few suggestions for how to tease;

• Tell her the dress she’s wearing would look better in red.
• Ask her if she’s wearing a wig
• Give her a nickname (I actually use this a lot - it works great especially if you don’t tell her what it is!)
• Ask her questions and playfully mock her answers.
• Accuse her of having AHDD

Fliting with teasing is a great way to escalate things to a physical level. If you use the techniques above, the chances are she will pretend she’s upset. Respond by giving her a hug!

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But how to flirt with women with the end goal of getting them to bed is an entirely different matter.
How to flirt with women to get them to bed will require you to abandon your conception of sophomoric flirting tactics and embrace a new set of seduction techniques that will make you a highly successful pick up artist, or PUA.

So, how to flirt with women and get them into bed?

First and foremost, the flirting that is required doesn’t involve flashing you white pearls and biggest smile.  It doesn’t involve showering women with praises.  It doesn’t involve drowning them with attention.

Those are flirting tactics that you should’ve left behind in 5th grade!

Here’s the deal – you will want a super hot babe, or SHB.  Don’t settle for anything less!  You wouldn’t want to go to bed with someone you find remotely attractive, right?  Since you’re going to hit on someone, might as well target the hottest chick in the bar, or the coffee shop, or the internet café, or wherever.

Now, the thing you should realize is that beautiful women are so used to attention and praises.  In fact, these SHBs actually EXPECT such attention and praises from each and every guy they meet.  And guess what?  They actually receive such attention and praises!

But not from you!

Oh no, not from you!  You’ll be different!

This is the very essence of how to flirt with women to get them in bed – by feigning disinterest.

Why is this method very effective?  It’s because you will be showing these SHBs something that they are not used to.  In effect, you will stand out.  You will be different from the other guys they have met before who tried to hit on them immediately.

They will find you mysterious.  They will find you unique.  And more importantly, they will find you challenging.  You will be able to turn the table on them.  Instead of you trying to win their attention, they will be the ones who will try to win yours.

It sounds crazy right now, I know.

But try to penetrate any PUA discussion and you will discover that this approach is the anchor of any seduction technique developed in the sub-culture of pick up experts all over the world.  You wouldn’t see any veteran PUA showering a girl with lavish words and undivided attention.  For PUAs, such is a practice of average frustrated chumps, AFCs who can’t get laid no matter how hard they try.

So, how to flirt with women by feigning disinterest?  Here are the 3 killer tips:

1. Push-pull approach. This technique involves showing interest with the girl one second, and extreme disinterest the next.  It’s a way of teasing her by pretending to give her what she wants, only to take it back later on.  In the middle of a conversation, you can take her hand and place it close to your heart, only to drop it all of a sudden to show her that you don’t fully trust her yet.

2. Performing a takeaway. A takeaway is a tactic whereby that a man employs after meeting a woman.  It involves leaving the woman for a significant period of time – say a few minutes or even an hour – to give the impression that he’s not interested, only to come back later on and restart the conversation.

3. Observing the “Group Theory.” The group theory suggests that a beautiful woman shall always be accompanied by a group during social gatherings.  In order to win the attention of the woman, the man must first win the acceptance of the group by pretending to be disinterested with the woman.

These are the flirting techniques that really work.  This is how to flirt with women based on tried and tested tactics.

Practice these approaches, and soon enough, you’ll be making the “full-close!”

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So, how do you read a girls body language when she doesn’t want to be seduced?  Here are the things you should look out for:

• A blank stare. Her mind’s elsewhere, dude! She’s not interested in you!
• Looking around the place for a cumulative period of more than 20 seconds. She’s either looking for someone more interesting, or she’s wary of being seen with you.
• There are visible pauses before she answers the simplest of questions. She’s trying to look for the most polite way to turn you down.
• An overall jerky disposition. She’ll flay her hands instantaneously when demonstrating a point. She’d strongly nod her head when agreeing to something you mentioned. She’d make   sudden motions when emphasizing some matters. Your presence is agitating her – in a bad way.
• Frowns during unguarded moments. Frowns can be cute and can be used by someone who’s playing hard-to-get, but when a girl frowns when she thinks no one’s looking, well, that’s something that just comes naturally.

The Positive Signs

Of course, there are gestures that instantly spell “She Is Attracted To You,” and you must learn how to read these gestures so that you can give her what she wants. Failure to read these gestures, or worse, failure to act on these gestures can potentially sink your seduction campaign.

Below are the signs you should look for when learning how to read a girls body language if she’s ready to be seduced:

• An increase in the usually positive signs of attraction. Is she smiling more? Is she establishing eye contact for prolonged periods? Does she show genuine enthusiasm for the things you share? Even an AFC – an Average Frustrated Chump – will be able to see these signs!
• Biting her lips. Distinguish this from her lips clenching each other. Biting is a subconscious gesture – and even a conscious gesture, if she’s a pro – that shows fascination and desire. Clenching of the lips is an attempt to restrain a frown.
• Gestures that direct your eyes to the sensual parts of her body. Is she tilting her head to one side while listening to you, exposing her smooth neck in the process? Does her head slightly tilt down, with her chin pointing to her cleavage? Is she playing with her hair, driving attention to her ear?
• Is she playing with the pendant of her necklace, hoping to hook your eyes into her breasts?
• Is she stoking her lips, seemingly inviting you for along, passionate kiss? DO NOT fail to see these signs! They are the green light, the go signal for you to drop the routine and to go in for the kill!
• Female-initiated body contact. If she’s not interested, she won’t touch you. If she’s not interested, she would consciously avoid any accidental touches as well. If her leg brushes against yours, if her hand caresses your arm, if she pinches your cheek or your nose under the pretense of adoration, then you would be foolish not to construe these gestures as signs of attraction.
• Verbal interjections that sound like moans.

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They have surrendered the good fight because they don’t see an Ashton Kutcher or a Brad Pitt when they look in the mirror, and they feel that such is a failure on their part.

Well, that’s a load of crap!

How to attract women sexually doesn’t depend on the face or the body that a man possesses.  How to attract women sexually depends on how well the man pushes the right buttons.

This is the philosophy behind the sub-culture that we call the society of pick up artists, or PUAs as they are more fondly called.  If you’d see their profiles on the internet, you’d discover that these blokes aren’t good looking people at all.  In fact, some of them even look like the biggest nerd way back in 5th grade.  Yes, the guy whom everyone thought would never, ever get laid!

But lo and behold, PUAs average 9.7 sexual encounters per week.  That’s more than one per day.

How do they do it?

Basically, they have mastered how to attract women sexually.  They have learned and perfected several routines that help them establish contact, win the attention, and successfully seduce the women they fancy.

Now, there are many methods on how to attract women sexually. Any PUA will tell an Average Frustrated Chump – or AFC if you will – that mastering all of these techniques will take time and a lot of practice.  Remember, getting a woman to bed is never instantaneous.  You don’t just wink at a girl and she’ll take off her panties for you.  It’s a PROCESS of wooing and there are many steps involved.

There are many tried and tested approaches when it comes to learning how to attract women sexually.  Below is one such method that has worked for renowned PUAs like Neil Strauss and the man known as Mystery.

1. Sarge with a wingman. Sarging is a PUA term that refers to going out for the sole purpose of picking up women. You need a wingman, a fellow PUA you can trust.  Your wingman will eventually help you establish first contact with a target and help you isolate the same if need be.  Your wingman will also help you get out of sticky situations, like when the target isn’t as attractive as you thought her to be and you need a quick way out.

2. Select your target. Easy enough.  Find a Super Hot Babe (SHB).  Don’t ever think she’s way out of your league.  It’s such kind of mentality that makes men fail even before they try.

3. Tease her by showing disinterest. I know what you’re thinking – “what?  Show disinterest?”  This is because SHBs are so used to attention that they actually expect guys to shower them with the same.  Stand out!  Be different!  If she’s with a bunch of guys, talk to them about guy things.  Let her feel alienated.  Turn the tables on her.  Soon enough, she’ll think of you as a challenge and she’ll open up her defenses.

4. Isolate the subject. If she’s with people, your wingman should help you separate them from her.  The bottom line is that YOU and HER should be left alone.  She’ll be more vulnerable this way, and there will be less distractions.

5. Establish an emotional connection. Make her feel that you understand her.  Make her feel that maybe – just maybe – you guys share a bond that is hard to find.  But don’t be a sissy in doing this.  Don’t go all “emo” and don’t ever talk like a gal pal.  Be strong.  Be manly.  Still feign a little disinterest.  But LISTEN.  Deliver follow up questions that will make her know that you’re listening to every word she says.

6. Establish a physical connection. When she has become comfortable with you, start touching her – subtly at first.  Press her hand to emphasize a point.  Caress her arm to reassure her when she needs reassurance.  Nudge her leg with yours when you both share a laugh.  If she doesn’t resist, intensify your advances.  Women love being touched – or at least they love being touched by people they are fond of.  If you manage to establish an emotional connection with her, this part should be easy.

7. Go in for the kill. She’s primed for seduction.  Your place or hers?

How to attract women sexually depends on how well you employ these PUA methods.  You have learned one such method.  Try it out.  Don’t let your fears stop you, as I assure you, those fears are baseless.

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It’s not written by the hot girl in the picture, it’s written by a clever internet marketer pretending to be a girl! I will probably get a lot of hate mail about this post but I don’t really care. The reason this book is so popluar is not because it’s any good. No, the reason it’s so successful, is it’s seductive sales page, and the huge army of affiliates that are paid handsome commissions on every sale.

Sure, if you want girls to think you are a wuss and run rings round you then yes, go buy it, here’s the link - GuyGetsGirl

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If you really want to find out what women find attractive in a man then get some female friends! BUT, don’t take any notice of what they SAY attracts them to men, instead, observe the kind of men they are ACTUALLY responding to, and who they end up sleeping with.

I’ve had some great conversations with my female friends about what attracts them to a man. If I ask a girl about why she went to dinner with a particular guy I usually get answers like;

He’s really sweet
He paid!
He’s good looking
He’s rich
He bought me flowers….

Blah, blah, blah

Then I ask if they slept with him and I get answers like;

NO!
NO!
and….NO!

HOWEVER, if they are half asleep with a silly grin on there face then I know they are thinking about the great guy they SLEPT with last night. When I dig a little deeper I find out this guy was not rich, did not buy her any gifts, was not that good looking…..

‘he just had something about him’

So what is this ’something’?

It means he is an Alpha Male, is interesting, has good conversation, is funny and doesn’t NEED women….. but generally GETS them.

Fortunately, any man can become a man like this once they get a grip of what’s known as Inner Game.

Inner Game is all about what’s going on inside - how we think of ourselves, how we talk to ourselves, self-esteem, confidence, our belief system, etc.

One of the best ‘inner game’ guru’s is a guy called Carlos Xuma. He’s is hugely respected in the self help and seduction communities so do yourself a massive favour and forget guygetsgirl and check out Carlos Xuma here.

If you really want a female perspective and don’t have female friends you can discuss this with, check out Dr.Z on Scoring by Victoria Zdrok. She’s a former Playboy Playmate.

Her book is written specifically towards models, actresses, centerfolds, etc. She reveals a lot of things most men don’t know about 9s and 10s, and bases her methods on being a hot woman and proven psychology.

Let’s delve a little deeper into this.

Before you can begin to attract these kinds of women, there are 3 essential steps you must take. If you do these you WILL start to achieve mind blowing results in your quest to attract and seduce high quality women.

1. Wake up and take control - You need to get a grip of the natural urges that drive your behavior. Yes, you know what I’m talking about! This is the key to your success with women, especially a ‘10′. High quality women want men who ARE rabid BUT only at the appropriate time!

I can’t stress this enough.

So many men crumble when they encounter a high quality women. Why? Because they aren’t in control of themselves. Quality women will sense this immediately…and LEAVE!

2. Get out of your comfort zone - This can be the hardest obstacle for guys who want to know how to attract and seduce the best women. You need to face up to things that make you uncomfortable and break out of the habitual patterns that hold you back.

3. Embrace change in yourself - This means being brutally honest with yourself and about why you do what you do, and the patterns of belief that hold you back. You will only ever attract beautiful girls if you believe you deserve it. Don’t go after hot women because you think it will make you feel better or fill a gap in your life.

Become the best man you can be, in other words become a high quality man and the high quality women will seek YOU out.

Hopefully you can see what I’m getting at here. Forget sneaky pickup tactics and stupid chat up lines. They will only get you so far and you’ll soon get found out as a fraud.

Take these 3 steps as the first VITAL stages in learning how to attract and seduce beautiful women.

I will be going into these steps in great detail future posts.

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Fortunately, it’s easily overcome. Read on…

Take Small Steps – Don’t turn every approach into some life changing event. Forget about getting numbers or initiating attraction and seduction techniques when you first start out. Just be casual and ask simple questions.

Get used to simply opening conversations with as many women as possible. Once you get confident with initiating conversations you can progress to the next stages of seduction.

Reframe it – Don’t approach every girl as if she’s your future wife! Just be a fun and sociable guy who talks to everyone whether they’re hot or not. If you happen to strike up a conversation with a great looking girl then that’s a bonus…. for her obviously!

Don’t Be Too Choosy – Don’t lurk around in the background waiting for some super hot model to appear. Approach and talk to as many women as possible regardless of looks. When that hottie does appear, you will be loosened up and ready to give her the full benefit of your conversation.

Approach 1 Women Everyday – This is arguably the single most important step to overcoming approach anxiety. Make it a daily task to approach at least 1 woman until it becomes the most natural thing in the world.

You don’t need to strike up an hour long in-depth conversation about the economy. If you’re in a queue at Starbucks and there’s a girl behind you, just comment on the time the barista is taking and ask her what her favorite coffee is.

Keep it simple

This does require commitment but this will boost your confidence enormously.

I’ll be delving much deeper into this in future posts but in the meantime check this out -

How to Approach Women

It’s frustrating when you like a girl but you can’t seem to get her interested in you, so it’s essential you know how to get a girl to like you - instantly. This article will give you 3 great techniques to spark attraction and get a girl to like you. So let’s dive in….

1. Tease Her :

This is amazingly powerful trick to get a girl to like you especially if it’s a particularly stuck up girl. I used this technique on a stunning Brazilian model in a nightclub once. She was getting a lot of attention from the guys and I did something totally outrageous.

I moved close to her and started sniffing the air around her until I knew she was looking at me, then I turned to her, looked her in the eye and said…..

‘Did you blow off?’

‘What??? No way!’ she replied.

I said – ‘Well there’s a funny smell round here and you sure LOOK guilty’

She crumbled and started laughing. The rest they say…. is history. We dated for a while and she still pesters me. I still call her f*rt girl.

Be Confident :

If you use the previous trick without being confident it will never work. Women are always attracted to confident men, regardless of looks.

When I accused the brazilian on blowing off, I made sure I said it without laughing. However, I did give her a wry smile which told her I was confident enough to do this without fear of her reaction.
A lot of men lack confidence but fortunately this can be EASILY overcome and I tackle that in my newsletter.

Be Indifferent :

One sure fire way to get a girl NOT to like you is to show interest straight away. After using the previous 2 steps to get a girl to like you it’s important to take a step back. This might seem strange guys, but believe me, girls like a challenge.

I know it goes against what seems natural BUT once you’ve sparked the initial attraction with the girl you like, go speak to your friends, or even better - other girls!

Try it and see what happens!

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Extensive research has shown that over half of all communication is non-verbal or projected by your body language and under 10% of communication actually comes from what you say.

So what does this have to do with seduction?

Well, you can have all the best seduction techniques in the world, and be highly successful with women online for example, but if you used those same tricks in the real world WITHOUT projecting confidence - you would FAIL miserably.

Quite frankly, knowing how to use your body language is ESSENTIAL for attracting and seducing women.

Ok, let’s cover the 4 basic essentials;

1. Smile

Yes, smiling really does work, but don’t make it a fake smile. You’ll only come across as creepy and insincere. When you smile, try and imagine you’re smiling through your eyes. This can be very powerful in conveying warmth and self assurance and is essential in making women feel at ease. It doesn’t matter how bad a day she’s had, a big warm genuine smile will melt any ice queen.

Practice smiling at people and during casual conversation and you’ll see an instant positive results!

2. Open Palms

This is a top secret tip! If you want to be seen in a positive light or you’re defending yourself from an accusation that - god forbid - you might be a player! Keep your arms in front of you with your palms facing upwards. Open palms combined with a smile work very well on a subconscious level to suggest honesty and truthfulness. Gaining trust is an important early stage in building attraction before moving towards seduction.

3. Eye Contact

Be natural, don’t stare at her chest with your tongue hanging out! Seriously, if you CAN keep your eyes away from these areas it will send a subconscious message to her that you are a man in control of himself, and it will take more than her womanly powers to win you over.

Maintain eye contact for about 70% of conversation time. Good eye contact can create strong rapport which is vital for attraction and seduction.

4. Good Posture

Maintaining good posture sends out a message that you are healthy, confident and strong. Whatever you might hear, we are still driven by basic animal instincts, and women will subconsciously ’scan’ a man straight away, to assess his suitability as a mate.

Simply pulling your shoulders back, sucking in your stomach and keeping your head up will give you an instant confidence boost - go on, try it NOW!

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